Recently, someone posted on our Facebook page an article about a 17 year old girl who had lived on a diet of chicken nuggets her entire life. Here’s a portion of that article:
This week 17-year-old British factory worker Stacey Irvine was rushed to the hospital when she collapsed, struggling to breathe. During the exam, doctors were stunned to learn that Ms. Irvine had never in her life eaten fruit or vegetables; instead she had eaten almost nothing but fast-food chicken nuggets since she was two years old.
Her mother, Evonne Irvine, told reporters she had gone to great lengths to try to feed her daughter more nutritious food, at one point even trying to starve the girl, but it hadn’t worked. Stacey responded that, once she started eating nuggets, she “loved them so much they were all I would eat.”
Wow. My first reaction to this was, “this mother should be arrested for neglect”. Maybe you think that a bit harsh, but let’s think about this for a minute. What is the role of a parent but to teach their children to make wise choices, to provide for their children what is right, good and healthy and to provide discipline when needed to help the child to stay on the right path? If a parent withheld water from a thirsting child or withheld warm blankets and clothes on a frigid day all the while they had the ability to provide these things, isn’t that neglect? Why is it any different when a parent irresponsibly withholds nutritious, life giving foods from a child who knows no better than to eat chicken nuggets every day?
Here’s another example of a parent, in my opinion, neglecting the physical needs of their child…last year when my daughter was in Kindergarten I would help out in her classroom every other week and then sit with her as she ate lunch in the cafeteria. Every day I sat with her I left without an appetite because I was so saddened by the lack of nutritious food these children are given. However, one day it was even worse. I sat next to a boy who had brought his lunch from home and I could barely contain my alarm as he pulled out the items in his lunch: a little chunk of white bread from Jimmy John’s, 2 Fruit by the Foots (did you catch that – 2!), a chocolate chip Kudos granola bar and to drink, Sunny Delight. That was it. Not even an attempt at something healthy, like a cup of applesauce, a banana – nothing. The amount of sugar in his lunch was about what a child should have in a week!
I understand it is difficult to get children to eat healthy foods, I have three of them myself. I know it’s hard, but it can most certainly be done. Lest you think we deprive our children, we don’t. They definitely have their fair share of treats now and again, but we are very careful about what treats they eat, how many they eat and when they eat them. Here’s different tactics and principles we’ve used with our children:
- Don’t keep junk food in the house. Seems pretty simple, huh? It is. If you don’t have junk in your house, neither you nor your children are tempted to eat it. I used to work as an RN for a program called Wic (Women, Infants and Children) and part of our job was to help the parent choose healthy foods for their children. I can’t tell you how many times I overheard a parent telling our dietician, “all my child will eat is hotdogs, macaroni and cheese and chips”. My thought was, stop buying them and your child can’t eat them! Children will NOT starve themselves. They may go on a short hunger strike, but eventually they will eat. The first and easiest step in changing your child’s eating habits is to change yours – stop buying what you shouldn’t be eating.
- Stop asking your children what they want to eat. Offering them a choice between an apple or a banana for a snack is fine, but asking them what they want for lunch or dinner is just begging for trouble. YOU are the parent, you make those choices. What child when asked what they want to eat is going to say, “let’s have a salad, some whole grain bread and an apple”. Don’t we all wish! Children, by nature, will choose what is the worst thing for them! We very, very rarely ask our children what they want to eat. We choose a healthy meal and if they don’t want to eat it, they wait until the next meal. We DO NOT give them a snack before the next meal, they must wait.
- Stick to your guns. A few times a week, we will have some type of dessert after a meal (usually whole grain cookies, homemade granola bars, organic “oreos” or something like that), but under no circumstances does a child get that dessert if he/she has not eaten all of their meal (including, and most importantly, their vegetables). If a child is struggling to eat their veggies (which is rarely a problem anymore since we have been vegetable Nazis for so long!), we do remind them that they will not get to enjoy the dessert along with the rest of the family. Again, if your child does not want to eat the meal you have prepared, DO NOT allow them to have a snack before the next meal.
- “Bartering” with little kids. Right about when our kids have all turned one, they began to fight us on eating their veggies/fruit. Early on, we teach them that if they eat a bite of the fruit/veggie we are wanting them to eat, then they get a bite of what they are really wanting. For example, let’s say they have some green beans that we are wanted them to eat and they were also having an almond butter/jelly sandwich. If our daughter was fighting us on the green bean and was only wanting to eat the sandwich, we would hold up a piece of each and say, “if you want this (show them the sandwich) then you need to eat this first (show them the green bean)”. Of course they didn’t magically give in on the first attempt, this takes diligence and perseverance, but we have had huge success with this. It requires you to sit with them for their entire meal and continue to go back and forth until the particular food they are fighting you on is gone, but over time they will definitely learn if you stick with it and don’t give in.
- Fruit and vegetables for snacks. You will be amazed at what a kid will eat when he/she is truly hungry. If you stop buying fruit snacks, granola bars, toaster strudel, etc. and only have fresh fruits around the house at snack time, your children will learn to love them. While you’re preparing dinner in the evening, set out some carrot sticks, cucumber slices, broccoli, and/or green/red pepper slices and some dip and watch your kids eat them up. It takes time to re-train a child’s taste buds, but it will happen!
- Start early. About a year ago we learned about the benefits of drinking vegetable juices (NOT V8! I mean using a juicer to make fresh vegetable juice) and have been drinking it almost every day since then. Our older two children (6 1/2 and 4) are not as crazy about the juice as our youngest (he’s almost 2). Because Easton was less than 1 when we started juicing and he had never had any kind of juice before in his life, he thinks it’s the best thing ever and drinks it all in 2 seconds flat! The younger you start your children on healthy foods, the easier it will be on them (and you!).
- Don’t give into cultural, peer or family pressure. Believe me, this is a tough one! Most people we know think we’re pretty crazy. But, we know that what we’re choosing for our children is best. You will often need to stick up for what you’re doing and be ready to go against the grain.
Above all, remember that you are the parent – you make the choices about what your children eat, not them. God has entrusted us with this responsibility and with the task of teaching them the importance of healthy eating.
Now would be a good time to take the first step and throw out those Fruit by the Foots and Kudos Bars ;)